In times of stress, we can’t always express our emotions. Emotions get packed into the body. During a massage, a process of releasing these emotions is initiated.
This release often takes forms that aren’t readily accepted in society because they involve bodily fluids and behavior deemed inappropriate for a ‘good girl’. Various fluids of the urogenital system, tears, mucus, coughing up/phlegm from the throat.
Releasing all of this in the presence of another person is often deeply prohibited from childhood. ‘Don’t you dare cry,’ ‘children shouldn’t be heard,’ ‘good girls don’t behave like that.’
Energy awakens down below, accumulating fluid — it’s forbidden to wet oneself. Energy rises to the throat — it’s forbidden to yawn, moan, scream, cough.
Energy leads to catharsis, an emotional outburst — tears are forbidden.
What to do:
- Explain to the girl before the massage what reactions might occur and give permission for their expression.
- Create an atmosphere where the girl can allow herself to express all of this. A setting with clear boundaries, where a mostly reasonable girl won’t blame the masseuse for being the sole cause of everything (there will always be some unreasonable reactions, albeit rarely).
- Work on oneself enough to endure these emotional expressions — not everyone can withstand a woman’s tears. In psychology, this skill is called containment.
- Familiarize oneself with the basics of anatomy and all female bodily fluids — there’s plenty of information in articles on the website and in the online course on yoni massage.
- Learn to manage one’s energy in order to love the girl (the heart chakra) even when her emotions are overwhelming — visually, it doesn’t always appear divine.
- At this moment, her conscious thinking is slightly dulled. Don’t expect her to recognize and name the emotion. Awareness might come later.
It's extremely, extremely, extremely important to have plenty of paper towels prepared to deal with all the aftermath of emotional release.
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
