These recommendations are shared with you consistently after a yoni massage session. Initially, I repeat them entirely for the first few sessions. In subsequent ones, if everything seems to be going well, I refrain from reiterating the same points.
Five recommendations from me and one from online course co-author, Olga.
1:
“The massage is complete. Lie down for five minutes; don’t rush to get up. Slowly come back to yourself. It’s crucial to lie down for at least five minutes”.
This time is for integration—bringing everything back together as a whole. Different organs and parts of the body react differently to yoni massage. During these five minutes of complete rest, everything calms down and evens out a bit. It’s in a safe and protected space. If you quickly jump up, emotions might hit later, and it might not be a safe space where you can freely express those emotions.
2:
“If you wish, you can share now: What happened? What came up? What did you feel?”
Now you have the time to release what surfaced, the most significant thing at the moment—to a correct listener, non-judgmental, not offering useless advice. Just someone who listens to you with love. It’s like standard therapy, helping you realize what it was for you, what happened to you.
It's like "sharing" used in workshops and seminars.
3:
“Memories and experiences might hit for three days. It’s crucial not to hold onto them. Talk to someone or write it down. A friend, a psychologist, or me—I’m always available. You can discuss anything with me.”
The energy movement during yoni massage brings up everything you’re filled with. Don’t stuff it back, handle it with care. Express it. The same sharing—with someone you trust. A simple dialogue a couple of times helped a client out of budding depression. A dozen times, it helped with rising aggression. Once, a woman was so affected that she sent me voice messages for three days, with epithets describing me. I learned a lot of new expressions. The most decent one was a “mended condom.” On the fourth day, it released her. A couple of weeks later, she apologized and thanked me.
4:
“If you feel like leaving a brief anonymous review after a couple of days, I’d appreciate it.”
It’s the same sharing, just delayed. Sometimes, the profound relaxation and inner dialogue pause after the massage don’t allow you to speak out immediately. This provides you with an opportunity to share after some time.
5:
If the previous points didn’t help—let me know. I’ll provide a powerful breathing exercise. When done correctly regularly, it helps even in the most challenging cases. It’s a yogic breathing practice called Kapalabhati. Air whizzes through the skull, taking away all unnecessary thoughts, and the skull starts to shine with clarity (kapala – skull, bhati – light, shine).
From Olga:
Add something new for your body into your daily life (a walk, spontaneous dance (e.g., five rhythms), self-massage, stretching, swimming, any gentle body activation, for instance, an hour a day). Do it without any goal, slowly, sensually, with pleasure, and immerse yourself in bodily sensations, listening to your body during the process.
Your body will slowly start suggesting where to channel the energy flows.
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
