This was a question posed by a woman interested in an online course about yoni massage.
In short: “To gain a client’s trust, you need to first prove that you’re not a maniac. Then calm her down and explain.”
In more detail: Repeat this process again and again in various orders — prove, calm, explain.
First stage: when a woman hears about this type of massage — it often happens without your involvement. From social media. From friends. From acquaintances. From her husband. At this point, you won’t be able to calm her down.
You can prove — share information about yourself. Your photos, videos, who you are, why you do massages.
You can explain — convey to her what kind of massage it is, what it’s for, how it will go, the cost, duration, and so on. Either through a social media post, your website, or a message in a messenger app.
Next stage: the woman reaches out to you. She’s nervous, anxious, adrenaline and noradrenaline are pumping because an unfamiliar situation is stressful. The sympathetic nervous system is active.
She's not ready for an explanation.
Calm her down using any available means. Have tea, cocoa, champagne, cognac (heard of that too) with her. Or in a long conversation, gather information — find out how she’s doing. Or use the most effective method — breathing meditation. This activates the parasympathetic nervous system.
Give her instructions:
- what’s most important,
- what reactions might occur,
- what she should do,
- what she shouldn’t do.
Conclude the instructions by affirming: “You’re in control of the entire process. If something feels off — you can stop at any moment.”
Calm her with the massage.
If you want to take her beyond the limits of the mind — during the massage, try not to talk. If the previous stages of “explain/calm” are done, and she’s not resisting the process — during the massage, there’s no need to explain or calm.
Explain only the transitions to new stages, calm her by asking about readiness, and demonstrate that you'll wait for her response.
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
