Grof’s second perinatal matrix is called “cosmic absorption and lack of exit.”
The uterine walls contract, but the cervix is still closed. This is characterized by a feeling of pressure and tension, often associated with a sense of hopelessness.
In massage, this matrix can manifest through reactions that unconsciously reflect this stage of birth:
1. Physical reactions:
— The woman may tense her muscles, especially in the neck, shoulders, back, or pelvis, reflecting the bodily memory of being squeezed by the uterine walls.
— Deep pressure may cause discomfort or even panic.
— There may be a feeling of unbearable heaviness on the chest.
— The woman may hold her breath or breathe shallowly.
— Sometimes at this stage, the diaphragm muscle becomes blocked—the woman says, “I can’t breathe at all.”
— A feeling of numbness or tingling in the arms, legs, or face.
— The most obvious physical manifestation is carpopedal spasms: the arms and legs may twist into very strange, unnatural positions.
2. Emotional manifestations:
— The massage may trigger unexplained anxiety, irritation, or a desire to “break free”.
— The woman may feel depressed, stuck, or resist the process.
— Sometimes the question arises, “When will this torture finally end?”
3. Behavioral reactions:
— The woman may unconsciously resist touching, change her body position, or request that certain techniques be stopped.
— Some women may attempt to control the massage process, which is associated with an unconscious desire to cope with feelings of helplessness.
What to do:
It’s important to monitor the woman’s reactions (breathing, tension, facial expressions) and adapt the techniques to avoid excessive discomfort without stopping the process completely.
Providing a comfortable environment, gentle communication, and informing her in advance help reduce anxiety.
A reminder to breathe deeply can help a girl relax and process any emotions that arise: “breathe… and relax… relax… and breathe.”
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
