Choose a massage therapist BY YOUR STOMACH and CHEST.
This advice may seem strange for our world, where most decisions are made with the MIND: “I thought about it and decided.”
But when choosing a massage therapist, try to do it not with your mind, but with your BODY. Assess what your body feels. Listen especially carefully to the sensations in your stomach and chest.
If you feel a cold, unpleasant squeeze, tension somewhere, this is not your specialist.
If it’s the opposite: a warm wave through the body, butterflies in the stomach, a feeling of relaxation, you need to go to them.
The main thing is not to pay attention to the thoughts in your head. All fears, doubts and excuses are a reaction of the mind.
Your body is wiser than your mind, it knows better how to choose the yoni massage therapist that is right for you.
If you don’t feel any butterflies or squeeze, here are some additional tips (mostly about male therapists):
- Respect the paid work that yoni massage specialists do, just as you would respect a paid session with a doctor. Never go to a FREE session, even if someone offers it to you as a gift. This is a potential sex trap and risk of sexual assault.
- A good yoni massage session lasts at least 2 hours. And it costs some money. This is not an area where cheap is good.
- Book a session with a specialist because he is qualified, and NOT because he is cute or flirted with you. There are too many stories about handsome men offering free sessions to young women. Real yoni massage professionals do not offer their free services to women on dating apps, in night clubs or in yoga classes. If a therapist tries to flirt with you or asks about your sexual fantasies when booking a session, this is a red flag!
- Visit the therapist’s website and social media. Read their articles or watch their videos to get a better sense of their mood and views on sexuality. Do you agree with them? Do they resonate with you? Would you feel safe in their hands?
- Don’t be shy about reaching out via messenger or phone first and asking a few questions. Remember, there are no stupid questions! Ask the therapist about their qualifications. Where did they study? How long have they been doing this work? A “weekend yoni workshop” or a summer on Koh Phangan does not qualify for this type of work.
- Always ask about the sessions. How do I prepare? How are the sessions conducted? Are there deadlines? Are there follow-up recommendations? What should I bring?
- Please note that a yoni massage is not a happy ending massage or a sex date. If a therapist flirts with you or offers you “additional services,” they are overstepping their professional boundaries. Leave immediately.
- In a proper yoni massage session, you should not allow yourself to touch any part of the therapist’s body, such as their buttocks, breasts, genitals. In the same way, you would not touch a physical therapist or gynecologist unless it is a polite touch on the shoulder/arm to get their attention.
- A proper yoni massage session is a one-way touch session: you, as the participant, receive touch, and the therapist gives touch. The therapist should only touch you with their hands, not with their mouth or other body parts.
- Check the hygiene of the work studio and the personal hygiene of the therapist. Is there a place to take a shower? What safety equipment does the therapist use? How well are their hands groomed? Does they use gloves?
- In a professional session, you can stop AT ANY TIME. Remember that the goal of the yoni massage therapist is YOUR physical and emotional health. Therefore, they will not take it personally if you decide to stop the session, regardless of the reasons. They take it easy.
- Do not allow anyone else in the room during the session unless you personally know them and feel safer because of them.
I hope these tips will help you make the right choice. With the proper yoni massage, you can discover many hidden secrets within yourself.
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
