In life, numerous events unfold around us. To some, we can react with our emotions. External displays of emotions: laughter, tears, screaming, sighs, blushing, gesticulation, grimaces.
In certain instances, we cannot.
Your boss yelled – fear or reciprocal aggression emerged in your body. Fear demands that you flee. Aggression demands that you counterattack. Energy within you was allocated for this, yet social norms and behavioral rules prevent you from releasing it. Your partner imposed sex on you when you weren’t ready, when your body didn’t want it. Or the first gynecologist was rude and unpleasant.
Emotional tension arises in your body, but you don’t allow it to express itself. You have to contain this energy, push it deeper into your body, and prevent it from moving.
Your body is very wise but also obedient. Commanded to contain, it obeys. It ensures that the emotion you haven’t expressed won’t harm you. It gets repressed, turning into physical tension in the body – fascial shortening or a trigger point in a muscle.
These are the same restrictions and blocks in the body that hinder the flow of energy.
They prevent women from connecting with their energy and feeling fulfilled. They shackle and inhibit the bright expression of feminine sexuality. They hinder experiencing orgasms in every part of the body (this is not a metaphor).
The body tries to protect the mind from overload this way. To reduce this pain. To sever the connection between the head and the body. To stop feeling the body’s pain. To stop feeling ANY signals from the body.
Muscle tension points form. Blood flow deteriorates in these areas. Nerve endings become less sensitive. Touch elicits either no response or discomfort. Pain, piercing sensations, burning.
Layer by layer, level by level, emotion by emotion – armor is formed. In somatic therapy, this armor is termed “muscular armor.”
In the yoni, precisely the same armor forms as in any other part of the body. For some, it’s barely noticeable – a couple of points that relax after a couple of sessions. For others, it’s much more massive: anywhere you touch even lightly – it hurts. Even students, coming for individual lessons with their model, notice it from the first time: “I feel tension there. I touch, breathe. And it—poooof—relaxes.”
Emotional tension can be expelled from the body with different, stronger, or more sustained tension.
- A hard method involves powerful energy practices like holotropic breathing, chakra breathing, dynamic meditations.
- A moderately rigid method involves body-oriented therapy, the “orgasm reflex” exercise.
- A gentle approach involves yoni massage and yoni self-massage.
The more regular the yoni massage or self-massage alongside any bodily practices:
- the easier the muscle tension,
- the fewer trapped emotions in the body,
- the greater sensitivity of nerve endings,
- the better the connection between the head and body,
The more pleasure you feel from life.
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
