The recommendations after the massage include advice: if something comes up, don’t keep it to yourself, talk to someone about it.
Psychologists have a trendy word “containment”. It means the ability to not get hurt by your own emotions. Accept all your emotions and live through them at a pace that is comfortable for you.
Normally, this skill develops in childhood. A balloon burst, you ran to your mother, poured out your deepest grief, your mother patted you on the head, and you ran on with a smile.
Problems arise when expressing emotions is forbidden. “Boys don’t cry.” “Girls don’t behave like that.” “Children shouldn’t be heard.” “Shut your mouth.”
As a result, a huge number of unlived and unexpressed emotions accumulate and can explode at any moment. All fears, all hatred, anger, envy, resentment… It’s normal to experience all this. It’s “abnormal” to express all this according to the norms of modern society. That’s why we don’t express it. We save it. Until it boils and blows the lid off.
This happens especially easily during yoni massage.
The movement of energy along the way captures everything that prevents it from moving - and releases tension.
If these are tears/snot/catharsis – this is great! Especially for you, I create a heart space in which you can express everything that you are ready. A powerful layer of emotions immediately comes out.
If this is a lump in your throat and tears that you could not let out – well, you are not ready. This means that everything will come out in a couple of days.
This is where the recommendation is needed – do not keep it inside, talk to someone. A friend, a psychologist or me. Choose for yourself the one who will serve as a container for you and accept your emotions. Allow you to express them.
The task of the container person:
- to listen silently and nod. In tantra, this is called listening with the heart. Psychologists call it non-judgmental perception. Simply create a space in which to unload the emotions that have arisen.
- accept the speaker along with all of his emotions.
- do not try to classify these emotions. Acceptable/unacceptable, good/bad.
- do not try to actively empathize.
- do not try to solve any problems.
DO NOT GIVE ANY ADVICE until you are asked to do so.
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
