“During the yoni massage, I will be moving your hands and legs. Your task is not to assist. Allow yourself to completely relax. Allow yourself to be a Woman. Allow yourself to simply accept, without trying to do anything in return.”
What a strange phrase during instructions… Why does he say that? I’m already a Woman…
Well, not entirely.
Ancient texts suggest that everything in the world is made of energy. Energy has two aspects, masculine and feminine. They are opposite but always complement each other and can interact with one another. Day and night, life and death, solid and soft, quiet and loud.
In different teachings, they are called different names: Shiva and Shakti in India, Yin and Yang in China, Anima and Animus in Jungian psychology, Ohr and Kli in Kabbalah, Yab-Yum in Tibet.
Both men and women consist of these energies in different proportions. Each contains both Yin and Yang. In ancient times, men had more masculine Yang energy than feminine Yin. Hunt the mammoth, conquer the neighboring castle. In women, feminine Yin energy was greater than masculine Yang. Roast the mammoth, organize the captured castle.
Some modern studies draw analogies between these energies and the two nervous systems in the human body. The sympathetic nervous system is responsible for the stress response — increased heart rate, muscle tone, shutting down non-essential functions — digestion and sensing what’s happening in the body. Its opposite, the parasympathetic nervous system, is about rest, relaxation, digestion and stable sexual arousal.
In modern times, women have more masculine Yang energy — fighting for gender equality. Men have more feminine Yin — trends toward feminine men.
If my Yang energy meets the internal Yang in a woman — there is no interaction. Competition arises, which doesn’t benefit in this particular case, and both “men” lose.
During the yoni massage, it’s far more interesting to help activate the feminine Yin energy. Then, it interacts with my internal Masculine. Simply replacing the internal Masculine with the internal Feminine isn’t possible, so we start from the first step — turning it off for a while. Relax. Slightly slow down the constant thinking of the left analytical hemisphere of the brain. Stop trying to assist me in moving your hands and legs in a masculine way — it actually hinders a lot.
And as soon as the internal Feminine understands that the internal Masculine no longer hinders, prohibits, or judges her — that’s where the magic begins.
That interaction of masculine and feminine energy leads to another testimonial of the yoni massage: "As soon as I relaxed and let go of control — I felt like a Woman".
Other details of the massage are described in the online course about yoni massage.
